FrenchieDante
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Is this a thing? Whatever you'd like to call it.... I have the puppy blues. I'm so blessed to have brought home such a smart, well adjusted puppy. He can't go outside yet (quarantine period until his vaccinations are finished) and is almost fully pee-pad trained. A few accidents here and there, but they do not upset me in the least. He rarely cries in his crate... Unless I accidentally oversleep.
Basically... I feel like Danté shocked my lifestyle system. When i'm not at home, I feel worried... Guilty. Is he okay? Is he bored? Is he comfortable? When I'm home, I feel like a failure. I try my best to give him my full attention, but I am missing "Me" time. I try to play with him and it seems like he's bored with his toys, he'd rather be getting into something he's not supposed to. He has all this energy and I'm unable to engage him. I'm constantly telling him NO! and distracting him with toys he's tired of. And he has 10+ toys.
I understand he is a baby, and going in I knew I'd have to watch him constantly. But, I'm not getting used to it. Every second, I have to watch him like a hawk. I can't even make a phone call or text someone without giving him 90% of my attention. I feel horrible to crate him while I shower, clean, do dishes or put my make-up on. He's already stuck in there while I'm at work. Whilst playing independently is not something he's interested in, rather exploring crevices in my living room I didn't even know existed. It's a matter of time before he hurts himself. That is... if he isn't crying to come up on the couch with me while I'm trying to do work or just take a second to relax. He has this new obsession with being up on the couch with me, which would be fine if he would just chill, but even on the couch he is chewing the cushions - or trying to jump off (which he is too little yet to do) or trying to eat my hair. I give him his antler, his Nylabone, his kong -- it peaks his interest for minutes. I feel like he's bored and not having any fun. I feel an insane amount of guilt that I'm not doing a good job. I find myself getting more sad with every day that passes. Worried about him and his repetitive days playing with toys he doesn't want to play with -- or sitting on the couch bored just because he wants to be close to me.
Ugh, I feel awful. And I love him so much. I just want him to have a good life. And I'm really trying my best, he is spoiled rotten. It's just hard because I'm in this alone without help... and I miss having a clear head and a moment to take a deep breath. I hope someone reading this can understand and tell me what I should do. I can't take this lingering cloud of guilt I feel that he's not happy and I'm not doing a good enough job of entertaining him and satisfying his puppy needs.
One.) Am I crazy and
Two.) will I be able to break free of these feelings?
I can't even imagine giving him away... one look at his Instagram and you'll see how in love with him I am, but I need a solution to have my darling Danté and also have my sanity and my sense of self.
Basically... I feel like Danté shocked my lifestyle system. When i'm not at home, I feel worried... Guilty. Is he okay? Is he bored? Is he comfortable? When I'm home, I feel like a failure. I try my best to give him my full attention, but I am missing "Me" time. I try to play with him and it seems like he's bored with his toys, he'd rather be getting into something he's not supposed to. He has all this energy and I'm unable to engage him. I'm constantly telling him NO! and distracting him with toys he's tired of. And he has 10+ toys.
I understand he is a baby, and going in I knew I'd have to watch him constantly. But, I'm not getting used to it. Every second, I have to watch him like a hawk. I can't even make a phone call or text someone without giving him 90% of my attention. I feel horrible to crate him while I shower, clean, do dishes or put my make-up on. He's already stuck in there while I'm at work. Whilst playing independently is not something he's interested in, rather exploring crevices in my living room I didn't even know existed. It's a matter of time before he hurts himself. That is... if he isn't crying to come up on the couch with me while I'm trying to do work or just take a second to relax. He has this new obsession with being up on the couch with me, which would be fine if he would just chill, but even on the couch he is chewing the cushions - or trying to jump off (which he is too little yet to do) or trying to eat my hair. I give him his antler, his Nylabone, his kong -- it peaks his interest for minutes. I feel like he's bored and not having any fun. I feel an insane amount of guilt that I'm not doing a good job. I find myself getting more sad with every day that passes. Worried about him and his repetitive days playing with toys he doesn't want to play with -- or sitting on the couch bored just because he wants to be close to me.
Ugh, I feel awful. And I love him so much. I just want him to have a good life. And I'm really trying my best, he is spoiled rotten. It's just hard because I'm in this alone without help... and I miss having a clear head and a moment to take a deep breath. I hope someone reading this can understand and tell me what I should do. I can't take this lingering cloud of guilt I feel that he's not happy and I'm not doing a good enough job of entertaining him and satisfying his puppy needs.
One.) Am I crazy and
Two.) will I be able to break free of these feelings?
I can't even imagine giving him away... one look at his Instagram and you'll see how in love with him I am, but I need a solution to have my darling Danté and also have my sanity and my sense of self.