Severe anxiety

[Ace the frenchie]

Hi guys. I need some help. Our little frenchie seems to suffer from extreme anxiety when we put him to bed at night. He is nearly 7 months old and just wont settle at night. He is fine if he sleeps in our bedroom on his little bed, but if hes in the lounge room in his bed by himself he goes absolutely nuts. Destroys the house, screams and cries and eventually pees himself. I am stumped on what to do. He stays home inside by himself while we are at work and is completely fine as he knows no one is home. As soon as I get home, he has to follow me everywhere and yelps like crazy if im somewhere he cant get in. eg. The toilet. He is very smart, is completely toilet trained and learns things very quickly, but we just cant seem to get past this. Please, if Im doing something wrong or if anyone has some tips on how to over come this, id be very grateful. Thanks

 

[hannah]

Is allowing him to sleep in your room on his bed out of the question?

 

[Ace the frenchie]

Thats what we had to do in his early puppy stages as nothing else would work, but its just putting a bit of strain on our relationship as we get no privacy with him in the room constantly. He crys and jumps at the shower freaking out while im in it. I just dont think its healthy for him to feel like this constantly.

 

[Jakeyjake]

Frenchies can be velcro dogs. Have you done any obedience training with him? May help boost his confidence.

 

[MunasG]

The thing is, once they are used to a certain routine, changing it will be hard. But with patience you might be able to undo the behaviour. i knew i didn't want Nellie in my room because its on the second level. So from day one her crate was down stairs and she slept down there. She has no interest in coming upstairs. And sometimes will just stand on the first step waiting for me. Sleep time is perhaps the easiest with her. once you put her in the crate she just passes out and doesn't whine unless she needs to go pee/poo. During the day however, she WILL NOT stay in there unless its to go in and eat or pick up a toy. Have you tried just letting him cry until he quiets down? i don't think its so much anxiety but just the fact that he's gotten used to one thing and is resisting change lol. If he's fine when left alone during the day then its more your attention he's craving during sleep time.

If it makes you feel any better, my Nellie whines and yodels everytime i go into the shower . its because she knows am about to leave her. Also if she wants to play and i happen to walk away and start a conversation with someone else, she would bark at me incessantly. Frenchies love attention, all the time! Unless its their time to sunbathe or run zoomies

Try leaving him in his crate in the other room little bits at a time during the day, and they increase the time gradually. very soon he'll no thats his new home. Good luck!

 

[hannah]

Thats what we had to do in his early puppy stages as nothing else would work, but its just putting a bit of strain on our relationship as we get no privacy with him in the room constantly. He crys and jumps at the shower freaking out while im in it. I just dont think its healthy for him to feel like this constantly.

Fair enough I feel the same way with two dogs IN our bed. I wish I could change the routine now but we're all so used to it. If we close them out they sit by the door it's like we're punishing them.

So I'm following this forum to see if anyone has any suggestions!!!

Aiko does the same with the shower she tries to jump in . They follow me around the house. It's crazy!

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[Ace the frenchie]

Thanks for the advice guys.

So I guess the whole crying outside the shower is a frenchie thing ����.

I haven't done any obedience classes as of yet but we have been seriously considering giving them a go and see what happens. A lot of friends and dog "experts" are advicing us to drug our little boy to calm him down so he gets used to sleeping on his own. I kinda don't want to go this route as its really not something I think is right. I could be wrong. Has anyone had any experience with meds?

Our patience cannot match his persistence. We tried the whole ignoring him thing for a solid week. He crys non stop from 10pm to 5:30am when I get up for work. He doesnt let up at all. He must sleep all day at hm while we are at work. He gets walked almost every day aswell. My dogs crazyyyyyy!!!!!

 

[hannah]

Thanks for the advice guys.

So I guess the whole crying outside the shower is a frenchie thing ����.

I haven't done any obedience classes as of yet but we have been seriously considering giving them a go and see what happens. A lot of friends and dog "experts" are advicing us to drug our little boy to calm him down so he gets used to sleeping on his own. I kinda don't want to go this route as its really not something I think is right. I could be wrong. Has anyone had any experience with meds?

Our patience cannot match his persistence. We tried the whole ignoring him thing for a solid week. He crys non stop from 10pm to 5:30am when I get up for work. He doesnt let up at all. He must sleep all day at hm while we are at work. He gets walked almost every day aswell. My dogs crazyyyyyy!!!!!

I wouldn't give dogs meds ....however I have heard of cannabis treats for dogs that help with anxiety. No idea where to get them they have just started becoming a thing in the states where Marijuana is becoming legalized. Not here yet in Canada but when it is I would definitely look into them!

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[davidh]

Frenchies love their humans, especially when they are a single dog, as you know dogs are pack animals. I would just let him sleep in your room with you. He is lonely and just wants to be with you.

 

[kiminmn]

I can't help with this. On any given night we have anywhere from 1-3 dogs in bed with us. Luckily the Frenchie (who is always the 1) is the biggest one. We also co-slept with our kids so there is that too. We are all about no cry and all sleep.

 

[Mavis]

Ginger and Bambi used to sleep on our bed, but Ginger is getting old and "leaks," so I said no more. I was going to the Laundromat every week to wash ALL of the bedding (sheets, comforters, blankets, waterproof mattress cover). I'd be there two hours. It was a p.i.t.a. So, now they sleep downstairs in their crates and John and I sleep better. If you wind up having him sleep in your room, I would insist he be in a crate. I think he will feel better being up with you but you can set a boundary and he can learn it. I hear you about their persistence - they can wear you down!

 

[2bullymama]

Frenchies love their humans, especially when they are a single dog, as you know dogs are pack animals. I would just let him sleep in your room with you. He is lonely and just wants to be with you.

agree ---- just place his crate in the room and along with an old t-shirt of yours

 

[hannah]

Ginger and Bambi used to sleep on our bed, but Ginger is getting old and "leaks," so I said no more. I was going to the Laundromat every week to wash ALL of the bedding (sheets, comforters, blankets, waterproof mattress cover). I'd be there two hours. It was a p.i.t.a. So, now they sleep downstairs in their crates and John and I sleep better. If you wind up having him sleep in your room, I would insist he be in a crate. I think he will feel better being up with you but you can set a boundary and he can learn it. I hear you about their persistence - they can wear you down!

Great advise

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[hannah]

agree ---- just place his crate in the room and along with an old t-shirt of yours

The t shirt is a Good idea !!!

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[nerja10]

put him in his crate beside you so he can see you then move him away a bit at a time over weeks,me and my wife had this problem and this is what we had to do,he was at my bedside then he was moved to bottom of bed then moved outside our bedroom and eventually moved downstairs all the time inside his crate.hes never been allowed on our bed as he would get used to it just do these steps over a few weeks and it should work & you need to be strict & dont give in

took us probably a couple of months to train him to be on his own at night in his crate but we done these steps and it worked for us,he could see me and hear me all the time when he did moan and i would sit up and tell him no ! eventually move him outside the room but close to your bedroom door so he can hear you & then you can try him downstairs if you have downstairs,ramos now sleeps like a baby in our kitchen and dont hear a peep allnight